Often when a door is closed in our faces, ESPECIALLY when we have toiled to attain that goal, it hurts. We are humiliated when faced with rejection, and frustration and disappointment are natural phenomena. The companions of the Messenger of God (peace be upon him) felt the same way on the day of Hudaybia, the day 1,400 Muslims were turned away from Makkah ofter an arduous journey on foot and not allowed to perform the pilgrimage at the Holy Mosque as they had originally intended to.
The journey to Makkah was so difficult that as families, kids and sacrificial animals passed this narrow path of hot burning rocks and thorns for miles, the Prophet (pbuh) gave them the glad tidings, "This for you is like the entering of Children of Israel though the doors of Jerusalem
(referencing the ayah:
And [recall] when We said, "Enter this city and eat from it wherever you will in [ease and] abundance, and enter the gate bowing humbly and say, 'Relieve us of our burdens.' We will [then] forgive your sins for you, and We will increase the doers of good [in goodness and reward]." - Qur'an 2:58),"meaning that "If you do this act with humility, God will forgive ALL of your sins.
However, as the Muslims camped out of Makkah, after multiple negotiations, the representative from the Quraysh, Suhail bin Amr came up with the most "ridiculous-seeming" contract for the Muslims that they will return back to Madina that year and if any man was to come escape from Makkah to come to Madina, the Muslims would turn him away. Right at that moment, Sohail's son, Abu Jundal entered upon the Muslims after he had been in the shackles in his father's basement for four years. He had heard the news of the Muslims and managed to escape. When Abu Jundal heard the terms of the treaty, he began wailing and crying saying, "Are you going to return me to the polytheists?"; his gut-wrenching pleas further agitating the Muslims.
The Prophet (pbuh) went to him and consoled him by saying, "يا أبا جندل ، اصبر واحتسب فإن الله عز وجل جاعل لك ولمن معك من المستضعفين فرجا ومخرجاً - Dear Abu Jundal...be patient and content! No doubt, God the Most High and Glorious, has created for you and whoever's with you from the weak ones, a happy ending and an exit (after your hardship)."
Aaah! The disappointment and hardship of being turned away, not to witness the painful handover of a tortured man back to those who oppressed him. Omar (he's my man because he used to think out his thoughts like I do!) lost his mind and came to the face of the Prophet (pbuh) and exclaimed, "ألست نبي الله حقاً Aren't YOU the Prophet really?! ألسنا على الحق وعدونا على الباطل؟ Aren't we on the truth and our enemies on falsehood?"
The Prophet (pbuh) calmly looked at him and said, "No doubt, I AM the Messenger of God." Snaaaaaap!!!
The Messenger of God (pbuh) asked all the pilgrims to take off their ihraams and leave. However. NO. ONE. budged. There was absolute pin-drop silence. This time, not even Abu Bakr, the Prophet's best friend, stood up. Everyone was so upset and this was the only time in the history of the Prophet (pbuh) when his companions did not submit to the usual, "سمعنا و أطعنا We heard and we obeyed."
Our beloved Messenger (pbuh) was so sad. He quietly walked into the tent of his wife, Umm Salamah, who recommended him to sacrifice his animal and shave his head because everyone else would then eventually follow. And so they did. And they began their journey back to Madina.
Omar (may God be pleased with him) finally realized his mistake and kept moving his animal next to the Prophet's (pbuh) ride and asking him, "Dear Messenger of God, may I have a word with you?" And the Prophet (pbuh) didn't even make eye contact him. Omar was so hurt that after the third time he retreated backwards into the caravan and began crying, "Let my mom mourn the loss of her son today" because he was afraid that the Prophet (pbuh) was upset with him and an ayah would come down from God reprimanding him about his behavior.
Then, as the Muslims neared the later part of the journey, the Messenger (pbuh) summoned Omar and man! He was SCARED! Turns out, as he walks towards the Prophet (pbuh), the Messenger (pbuh) was beaming with a big smile. And then he recited the entire Surah Fath to Omar beginning with the following ayah:
Omar and the rest of the Muslims were was dazed! God called THIS victory?! With all the treaty's absurd terms and with the Muslims returning back to their homes? And of course..we all know how this treaty eventually helped the Muslims in the long run.إِنَّا فَتَحْنَا لَكَ فَتْحًا مُّبِينًا"Indeed We have given you (O Muhammad pbuh) a clear victory." - Qur'an 48:1
But man! When I heard that: I had tears in my eyes. How many times doors or rejection and humiliation are shut in our faces and yet we walk away from those closed doors thinking that "God has been unfair to us," or "Why didn't He reward my hard work?"
Perhaps the very loss that we suffered IS the ultimate victory. The very rejection IS the acceptance in the eyes of God. The very silence that we maintain patiently during a calamity IS our eventual salvation, not only in this world, but hopefully in the next too, insha'Allah.
And as the surah concludes, gratitude to God at such instances is not expressed except through prayer. That's why God describes the same companions who had literally almost walked out of the folds of Islam by the following words:
"Muhammad is the Messenger of God; and those with him are stern against those who disbelieve, merciful among themselves. You see them bowing and prostrating [in prayer], seeking bounty from God and [His] pleasure. Their mark is on their faces from the trace of prostration. That is their description in the Torah. And their description in the Gospel is as a plant which produces its offshoots and strengthens them, so they grow firm and stand upon their stalks, delighting the sowers. As a result, it fills the disbelievers with rage at them. God has promised those who believe and do righteous deeds among them forgiveness AND a great reward." - Qur'an 48:29
So don't despair. Victory is just around the corner. :)